You Can Attempt Anything

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I have been reading Felicia Day’s memoir “YOU’RE NEVER WEIRD ON THE INTERNET (almost)” and I came across this page. The mantra on that cup really hit home with me. “You can attempt anything.” It is such a simple sentence, yet it has such a profound meaning. She says to “Repeat that motivational cup sentence until it gets in your gut and doesn’t sound like something stupid on a Hallmark card, because it is the basis for anything that will make you happy in this world.” I paused reading and started doing that. At night I say it, in the morning I say it, and throughout the day I say it.  Go ahead and say it now a few times, out loud. Go on, I’ll wait.

 

Okay, after repeating it, it starts to get more meaning doesn’t it? So much in life is kept from us because we are afraid to try. We are afraid to make the attempt. We are afraid of failure. What if the attempt itself was the goal? You wouldn’t fail, as long as you made the attempt. It is like anything in life, take baby steps. Your ultimate goal may be to make a hit web series like Felicia’s was. Or, your ultimate goal may be to lose a bunch of weight, ask that cute guy out, become an actor, master a craft, or making the perfect baked alaska. All of those things can be overwhelming, scary, and intimidating. If your goal is to ATTEMPT it though? Not so scary. As long as you attempt it, then you have reached your goal.

Once you have made the attempt, one step is out of the way. From there you can create further goals, and make those goals to attempt the next step. Next thing you know, you just might have accomplished your ultimate goal. With each step, you will slowly be conquering your fear of failure. Finally, you can be proud of the fact that you tried. Yes, failure may still happen, but you tried. You won’t have that guilt, or that regret from not trying.

The unknown is the scariest thing in life, which is why so many people do not attempt so many things. We cannot know what will happen in the future. There are no guarantees in life. So, we tend to stick with what we know and accept that as our fate. I think that by  using the mantra “You can attempt anything”, it will help alleviate some of that fear.  The outcome and chance of failure is scary, the actual attempt is not.

 

So in short, You can attempt anything.

2013, A Year Of Learning.

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The year 2013 is coming to an end. As it does I have been looking back and thinking about the past year. So much has happened in my life and in the lives of those around me. There have been good times, moments of joy, of silliness, of excitement, happiness, love and laughter. There have also been bad times, moments of heartache, of loss, of sadness, hardships, sorrow and pain. We can hold on to the memories of the good, we can learn from the memories of the bad, and we can hold on to the bonds we have built with each other.

When you experience life with people, it links you to them, it binds you together. To me, family isn’t determined by blood, it is determined by love. I have chosen the friends in my life, and they have chosen me. Again, everything comes down to choice, and this mutual choosing is what I think makes a family. There are so many people in my life, and they all have a reason to be a part of it. Each and every person brings something important with them. Some are more serious and help me see the facts. Some are sarcastic and help me see different views. Some are silly and help keep laughter in my life. Some are caring and help me to care for others. Some are even negative, and they all help me keep a wide variety of views on life. Together all of these people help make me who I am.

Everyone is in your life for a reason. Even those that are no longer in your life. I have lost loved ones, I have lost friends, I have lost people that shouldn’t be in my life anymore. All of these people have taught me lessons. Losing my mother was the hardest thing I have ever been through, but it taught me strength, it helped to motivate me to improve my health, it taught me to appreciate the loved ones I still have, and form tighter bonds with those around me. Losing friends was also hard, but it taught me a lot about who I am as a person, what I want out of life, and again to appreciate those still around me. Losing the people that shouldn’t be in my life was actually a result of those lessons. I have the strength and the knowledge to know what I want and what I need. I now know a bad situation when I see it, and I am strong enough to remove myself from that situation, no matter how much it hurts the heart, or how much I hate hurting others. Sometimes it is simply for the best.

Sometimes it takes a lot of tragedies and negative things to really help us appreciate the world around us. It can be easy to look at the previous year and focus on the bad and say it was a horrible year. As I’ve said in previous posts, I think all these things happen for a purpose and we can learn from them all. So, instead of writing 2013 off as a horrible year, I am declaring it a year of learning. I have learned so much about myself. I have analyzed the things that have happened and milked them for all of the lessons they can teach me. Doing this has made me stronger. My perception has changed so much, and I have grown and improved as a person. I am not taking anything or anyone for granted anymore. I have redefined what family means to me. Simply put, because of everything that has happened, I am happy.

Perspective

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So, today I am focused on perspective. How we choose to view things. How we choose to react to things. There is a lot of negativity in the world, there are a lot of negative things that happen. We learn a lot about ourselves by the way we choose to react to these things, by how we choose to view them. We can choose to declare it a “bad day” or a “bad week” and give ourselves the excuse to act negatively. Or we can choose to overcome the obstacles and keep a positive outlook. Which feels better? Which is better for those around us? I am choosing to view things in a better light, staying happy, and feeling great. Why would I go the other route? Notice I said CHOOSE 7 times already. Life is about choice. What do you choose?