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Focus on the Here and Now.

Too often we get distracted from the present moment and place that we are in and cannot fully appreciate it. 

I have come across many people who are so focused on their past that they cannot appreciate their present. These are people who are constantly telling stories of where they have been, what they have done, what they used to look like, who they used to date, a job they used to have, a skill they used to use and so on. They get so wrapped up in who they used to be, that they take away from who they are. Often this leads to them being depressed about who they are now. Maybe they aren’t as young, or as thin, or they are single, or don’t have a job as good as they used to. They are constantly comparing everything about their current life to where they used to be in life. When they do this, it makes it hard to see all of the good things that they do have and all of the good qualities that they do have. It often leads to bitterness and regret, wishing they still had their old life, and wishing they could go back in time and change things. Sometimes these people are focused on mistakes they have made, or events that they wish went differently. We cannot change the past, we can only learn from it and move on. I am not saying to completely forget about your past, but do not focus on it, do not let it take away from the present, do not compare it to your current life, and do not get stuck living in the past.

Other people (and sometimes the same ones) do the same thing about the future. They get so wrapped up in the future that they cannot appreciate who and where they are now. These are the people who are constantly talking about what they will do when they have enough money, when they lose enough weight, when they get a different place to live, a job they plan to have, the man or woman of their dreams and so on and so forth. They hurry through their day and life trying to get closer to where they want to be. They get stuck living in a dream world that isn’t even here yet, and honestly may not even happen.  They set themselves up for disappointment if it doesn’t happen how they plan. This type of thinking can lead them to really hate their current life because they are not where they want to be. It can discredit all of the good things and qualities they have because they are comparing it to a fantasy world. It is good to dream and it is good to plan for the future. It is not good to get so wrapped up in it that you rush through your daily life trying to get there.

When you focus on the here and now, you can appreciate the life you have. You can notice all of the good things about yourself and your life that you would not notice or give credit to if you were comparing it to the past of future. Focusing on the here and now helps you to notice all of the little things in life that make it worth living. The things about yourself that are good, the people and places in your life that make you happy all pop into view when you are living in the moment.  The past is who you were and helped create who you are today. They future is who you will be, and is created by who you are today. Keeping the future and past in mind can help you make good decisions in your life, and motivate you to do things today. Just do not let them overpower the moment you are living in. You cannot change the past and the future is unpredictable, but the here and now is completely up to you and under your control.